First of all, just talking about relapses can be dangerous because once the thought of slips enters the mind it is difficult to get rid of it, and you unconsciously will it to happen. Have you heard the story of a boy trying to learn cycling? He was so scared of hitting against the stone on the road that on a wide road he saw only the stone and banged right into it.

The moral of the story is that if you think of handling ’slips’, ‘just ones’ or any ‘accidents’ for that matter, you are going to have them. So, don’t plan for slips; you probably won’t allow them. The thought itself is a great morale booster. So, think positive, and cross the bridge when you come to it. On the contrary, planning for moments of weakness demoralizes you quite a bit.

Nevertheless, it is prudent to be aware of the eventuality that slips do occur. So, when you have slipped up, chastise yourself until you feel completely guilty. You will automatically do it to yourself anyway. Here the support group becomes very important. Once you have raked yourself over the coals, contact your support group and let them know what has happened. They will help you rebuild your resolve.

One or two slips can be overlooked; indeed they should be overlooked as aberrations. But, if by chance the slips are occurring too often, it is time to be honest with yourself and admit your failure. Honesty gives you immense strength; delusion makes you weak. Acknowledge the fact that you have failed and start again.

But, change your strategy this time around. First prepare yourself with as much information as possible. Make a note of your strengths and weaknesses. Use your strengths to your advantage and learn to handle your weaknesses. You will find ample information on the net. Study it with a view to tackling your specific problems. If you go about it the right way, you will not only succeed in achieving your goal of quitting smoking, but you will do it in record time.

If continual slips are occurring, you are better off to realize what is happening and admit to yourself that you have failed this time. And that’s okay, because it is better that you admit it, write this attempt off, and go back to finding the information and incentives you need to quit successfully than to relapse slowly back into oblivion. Better to realize that you have missed your target this time around and get back on a new and better course than to continue on smoking for the next twenty years.

Have the mental strength to be successful.

Darren Warmuth

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